Buying your girlfriend or current lady friend a sex toy may certainly raise a few eyebrows in certain circles, but with the prominence of erotic lingerie shops coming more prevalent (when was the last time you walked through Soho or Brixton without seeing a shop displaying some new lacy little number that you would love to dress your lady up in?) and these chain stores are now stocking vibrators. Gone are the days where a man would have to walk into a shop with his head down, blushing furiously as he tried to avoid eye contact with the cashier. Now you have the pleasure of being able to stroll into any such store and have the pleasure of a usually beautiful female shopping assistant who will gladly take you through some of their raciest little numbers for your other half. Yes you will get smiles and knowing looks, but they are usually from either other men in similar predicaments or from other women in the store. Why? Well not because they think you are some sort of pervert that is for sure.
As we asked our girls, a man who feels comfortable enough to buy a toy for his other half exudes confidence. It cries out saying, “this piece of plastic may well be able to heat up and pulse and tingle every which way but hey, it’s not me so she’ll just have to suck it up and make do until I come back from my business trip. And hey, maybe if you’re lucky enough little lady then I will use it on you myself next time we are in the bedroom, that’s just how confident I am, so enjoy and yes what a lucky girl you are”. Disbelieving? Well we speak straight from the mouths of our ladies who say some of their best experiences have been with men who feel comfortable with themselves and buying a woman a sex toy screams confidence.
So, if you want to surprise her and not have it backfire on you, your best bet is to read on. Here’s how to make finding it, buying it and giving it to her a much more seamless and pleasurable process.
Determining Her Toy Of Choice
The easiest way to know what she would like is to ask her, but if you are buying her a surprise gift, you will have to make an educated guess.
Whatever your woman’s overall preferences, they are likely to vary with her mood, so you need to choose a sex toy that will suit the range of her aroused occasions. Your safest bet is to buy something that provides pleasure to all zones at various speeds that offer different levels of pressure.
Here are three toy suggestions that you can’t go wrong with:
The first, the basic slimline
Form 2 Vibrator
Form 2 is a toy that some of our favourite girls swear by. The appeal is that it has been deliberately designed to mimic the head of the infamous “Rabbit” (without the giant body to match), the Form 2 has two motors in the ear-like extensions that vibe on contact. It’s waterproof with a one-button press to change to a variety of speeds and pulses. Form 2 is great for clitoral and labia play when you are spending time on her. Should you wish to enjoy a bit of foreplay then this is the toy for you (well her but let’s not quibble over semantics).
It’s a really fun and easy toy to use that comes highly recommended by our ladies if you are looking to buy your lady her first toy. This toy will allow you to spend quality intimate time together without you needing to use the toy on yourself. For bit of couple play, this is the first one.
We Vibe 3
Adam & Eve Vibrating Bullet
More adventurous toys and how to approach using them
So previously we approached the subject of buying a toy for your other half. Should this be something you are interested in but have found the basic models to be a little tame for you, or perhaps you simply want to read on and find out more details of other models out there, then we offer this which has proved to be a hot topic of conversation with our girls who are most keen to see how many men take note.
Adam & Eve Wand Massager
Her first Rabbit
The bunny ears themselves which is what the main model is known for are able to vibrate to a variable level chosen by her, and are strategically placed so the shaft can be inside her while the ears sit right on her clit. The Jack Rabbit also has a pouch of crunching beads, which are at the base of the shaft, to stimulate the entrance of her vagina, which supposedly has the highest concentration of nerve endings in the whole area, after the clitoris. This three-in-one toy is guaranteed to work on any type of lady. She can just use the bunny ears, or put the whole thing to good use — it all works.
Inner Desire Love Egg
Ultimate G-Spot Wand
Time To Go Shopping: Finding And Buying It
Going into a sex shop can be slightly intimidating, but remember that the staff there are usually very open people who want to help you. It’s their job and they like talking about sex and sex toys. It’s their bread and butter, dude. The great thing about going into a store is getting great advice and recommendations from the staff, like the best accompanying items and lube (great for enhancing pleasure).
If you’re too shy to go into the shop (you really should, you are missing out on being served by some really beautiful, flirty women), then the internet is basically your best friend. These days, you can buy pretty much anything online, and sex toys are no exception. To be honest even a search on eBay or Amazon and certainly a general Google search (you might want to turn safe search off but don’t do this at work!) see what else is out there. You never know what you might find. Plus, most sex shops offer savings with online purchases.
Don’t forget the lube
Sex toys are generally more enjoyable, and safer, when used with lube. Lube will ensure that the toy does what it’s supposed to do, without causing any extra, unnecessary friction. Most stores that sell toys have offers (sort of combo items if you will) of batteries and lubricants and you shouldn’t really have any problem on this front. Worst case scenario, your local supermarket and pharmacist will sell basic lubricant, just make sure you read the advice on the back of the toy since some lubricants will corrode the material it is made of, rendering it useless. Also, sex toys must be cleaned regularly. You wash your dishes after every use now don’t you?
Bigger is not better
When buying a phallic dildo or vibrator for a girl, don’t assume that bigger is better. In fact, it’s often the opposite. Because most of their orgasmic stimulation comes from the clitoris, many women prefer to masturbate with something very penis-like in length, girth and texture, if not smaller, like the popular “lady finger” vibe. For this reason, bullets and other curved vibrators are best suited to work with her body to give her the ultimate pleasure.
If you don’t know her too well and are guessing what she will like, stay on the safe side and avoid huge double-ended dildos, strap-ons and anything anal. The safest bets are to keep it to well-known erogenous zones.
Should you need any further advice and happen to be meeting up with one of our ladies in the interim, they will be more than happy to advise as to exactly what might suit your particular lady in question.