At any time of the year, men will be nervously wandering how that first date or next encounter will pan out. In any given weekend, millions of men – young, middle-aged and older, will be in a bar, pub, restaurant, shop or coffee store and will be eyeing up one of millions of young and beautiful ladies who happens to be in the same establishment as them.
The majority of those men will give the eye, perhaps flash a smile and then move on. Some may even try and break some ice and say, “Hello” while others will breathe deeply, shuffle their feet and try to start a chatting up moment. Others will confidently ask the girl outright if there is any chance of a date or phone number exchange (yes they do exist and in their thousands).
One man in London we knew of back in the 1980s – we shall call him Brentford Brian – was on a date with a different girl every weekend, sometimes two. He would amaze his mates and pub goers at his regular haunt because of his success at winning the women and getting a date. The source of amazement came as a result of Brentford Brian’s appearance.
Brian has long unkempt hair, a little overweight and certainly not what you would consider to be a handsome guy. But what he lacked in good looks, he made up for in character, charm and confidence. I once asked him what his secret was, and he replied, “Simple, I do get a lot of rejections – in fact, I would say 98 per cent of all the girls I asked out turn me down. When I come down the pub with a woman, she will be one per cent of the luck 2% that said yes!”
A wide smile would come over his face as he spoke and one could not but help to see the charm exuberating from his personality. Girls were initially set back a little by his looks but once he began to talk and his confidence shined out, he became a magnet for the women.
A lot of guys fail in this area. They have little confidence, no chat up lines and are so fearful of rejection they don’t even try to pull at all. All this, despite some of these men being very handsome and attractive to the opposite sex: So the “success” rate is 0 attempts, 0 pulls and 0 rejections. Now, my maths tells me that Brentford Brian’s figures of 100 attempts, 2 pulls, 98 rejections actually puts him higher in the league of success than a man five times more handsome.